Moms Talk: When to Take Matters into Your Own Hands

A Minneapolis mother was disciplined by her child's school after she confronted his bus driver and two boys who had been picking on her son. Faced with a similar situation, what would you have done?

A Minneapolis mom has been banned from her son's school and his bus stop for the rest of the year after confronting her a bus driver and two boys who had been picking on her son.

(Find the full story here.)

The mom said the bus driver knew about the bullying but didn't take action.

“He told me ‘I am doing the best I can, I can’t be in 50 million places at once,’” Tanya Sydney said in this CBS story.

Something about the story just didn't sit right with one member our Moms Council. told us she would have done the same thing if her kids were in a similar situation with bullies because the bus driver refused to address the situation.

So today we're asking you to put yourself in someone else's place. If your kids were being bullied like that and no one would help, what would you do? And do you think it was right for the school to ban the mom from both the building and her son's bus stop?

As of Tuesday night, the CBS story had 384 comments of people weighing in. What's your take?

Morgan Day October 05, 2011 at 06:46 PM
Thanks for the comment, Kristina. Would you have sought out the help of the principal or the superintendent? I think the school made a good point at the end of the story: "Minneapolis Public Schools encourages parents to contact their school immediately if there are bullying concerns. Our schools take allegations concerning bullying very seriously and have a protocol to address these types of situations." But I would have been fuming that the bus driver did nothing, too.
Emily Chesnic October 05, 2011 at 07:53 PM
I most likely would have contacted the principal, superintendent, offenders' parents and stepped on that bus...Afterall, who wants to send their child off to get picked on? I could not let my child get on that bus another day knowing he was going to get teased and hit. It brings me to tears just thinking about the possibility. Some kids are so cruel and need to be put in their place. I feel so bad for this mother.
Morgan Day October 05, 2011 at 08:00 PM
We've got a couple more comments on our Facebook page too (although we strongly encourage folks to bring the discussion here to the website). Here's our Facebook link: http://www.facebook.com/NorthCantonPatch/posts/227825550606667?notif_t=share_comment
Meegan Massello October 06, 2011 at 08:41 AM
I think there is a fine line between when kids should learn to stand up for themselves and when a parent should intervene. I suppose where to draw that line depends on the age of the child and the extent of the bullying. I know that here in North Canton bullying is taken very seriously and intervention by a parent would probably never be needed. That said, if the bullying was beyond what my child could defend himself against I am sure that I would step in. Not to long ago there was an older child on my son's bus that was repeating some pretty vulgar things to my son. I not only went to speak to the director of the daycare but also to the child.
Lisa Lynch-Frank October 06, 2011 at 02:12 PM
Kids can be so cruel and bullying can have a lot of emotional damage on kids who are bullied. To say what's right or wrong is hard. At the time, I imagine the mother's heart was breaking for child and she was in defense mode. I think contacting school officials would have been the best move. However, how is banning the mother from her child's school and bus stop effective? Is that the answer?


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