Ok we heard about the conversation going on between the bullied girl and her parents,what about the kid doing the bullying were his parents involved in these talks?

Did anyone know that there is a protest going on right now at that school? The students are gathered inside & outside to stand against the principal to show support of the girl who was the victim and to make it known they are not happy with the way it was dealt with.

How about PARENTS teach their children how to behave. PARENTS discipline their children, PARENTS teach their children to handle opposition. I believe threatening physical harm to another is referred to as "Menacing" and should be dealt with by the police. I have a feeling that if a couple of police offers showed up at this boys house to give him a talking to, he probably would have straightened up. It is not the responsibility of the school to "RAISE" our children. These complaints are probably supported by the same people who OPPOSE the school disciplining the kids. (i.e "paddling"). Either you want the school to handle it or you don't. Make up your mind. They can't control the action of someones obviously U N P A R E N T E D child. It all comes down to drama.

My daughter is Emily Deyoung. And I believe there is not enough structure and consequences to the kids doing the bullying. But we are trying to work with the school to change this.

If there is a protest on-going, why make it about one girl. Our community has a problem with bullying. Instead of pointing fingers, which is never helpful, let's come together and determine how to help, not only the "victims," but also the victimizer. Let's work together as a community and alone as caring ppl. to help redeem this terrible situation.

I was at a meetinbg for parents last wed at bolich a whole 20 parents showed for a antibullying meeting ? The community needs to get involved ! Also what about the kids who went to class today and received no education for the first hour since a few of the teachers did not even teach ? I think the community needs to get involved the cuyahoga falls school system is in trouble

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I was contacted by there phone system a week before

I have a child in 7th grade at Bolich. This has gone way too far....The parents of Emily go on the local news and say that they school is doing nothing about this. That is NOT TRUE, the school suspended him and assigned him a aid, not a chaperone (I believe paid by the district) to be with him the entire school day, that was done I believe almost 2 weeks ago. The school did what they were supposed to do in this case. In my opinion, bullying is something that happens for an extended period of time, this does not seem to be the case. She was threatened by him, and he should be punished, but I do not think that she was bullied. If she did not feel safe on the bus, then drive her to school. And why would you pull your other child out of school too, was he being bullied? And why would you go on the local news and show your daughters face and her real name? And now, because everyone is only hearing once side of this story, we have students protesting outside of the school. They should be in the school in the classrooms learning and not distrupting the whole school. The child and the parent that started this protest should be ashamed of themselves, you need the whole story before you take action. The child that started this protest is "threatening" to do a walk out of a flick day if something is not done within a week or so.....isn't why this whole thing started to begin with? You are part of the problem, not the solution. And the DeYoungs are out there protesting with the kids.

My concern is that just yesterday the school sent out a blast to the parents providing an apology for NOT notifying us of the BB gun incident. Yet here we are the VERY NEXT DAY and there was a protest at the school and I, a parent of a student who attends the school, never received a phone call from the school informing me of the situation. How would a parent feel if they drove by not knowing what was happening and saw all of the kids out there, or saw it on the news, or found out from our children when they get off the bus this afternoon, rather than be told by the very officials who promised they had changed the policies and procedures for handling communication? How quickly they forgot that. I told my daughter I believe their cause is great but the method for getting it out could be better than a protest, I suggested going to the principal or school board with their concerns to address the entire story instead of going off hearsay. Our kids want to be heard, they want to feel safe at school, and they want to believe that if they report a problem someone will address the issue and find a solution. That is ALL about how the school handles it, as parents we aren't there with them at that point to do anything, but at home it is our responsibility to be involved in their lives and know what is going on. It is a joint effort to solve this bullying problem and that means everyone needs to be communicating.

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As a parent of a child that has been cruelly harassed and bullied for years, I came to realize that portraying my kid as a victim is not useful. In the long term, It can be harmful. My husband and I chose to empower our child and not run from the school or from the situation. We allowed the school to handle the bully as they saw fit. We handled our child by teaching him to behave and think differently.
The bullied students often do not know how to behave to deflect the attention of the bully. I am in no way defending the bully, but merely pointing out that the bully many not be the only one who needs to change. One side of handling this problem is training our children to not become victims. A victim mentality or over-reacting to teasing will attract the predators.
Over the past three years, we have worked with our child and he has behaved less like a victim and has enjoyed victory and genuine substance through working through the hardship of being bullied. It was a painful process on so many levels, but he has become stronger and better for it. I am not an expert in this area, but through seeking assistance from books, mentors and even private counselors I have seen growth in my son.
I put this out there as hope for those parents whose children have been bullied.

@Lisa Beech
Awesome comment!

I believe that is what is needed on BOTH sides.
Parents need to work with the children - not blame everyone else. The time you have invested in that will follow with your child for a lifetime - and he/she WILL benefit from it in the long run.

Yes - I believe you are correct.

For your information.......WE WERE NOT PROTESTING WITH THEM...WE WERE TRYING TO GET THE.KIDS TO GO BACK TO CLASS...HWT YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT....PLEASE...

A school board official was there trying to get the kids back to class....

Bullying is a problem that is everywhere. But when threats of bodily harm are part of the bullying that is where I as a parent draw the line. We pulled our daughter from the school so that this issue could be resolved and so we could give both children involved time apart. My daughter was bullied because she tried to stop this boy from bullying her friend. We asked our daughter to face the protesters and ask them to return to class. We want to make Bolich a safe environment for all children. Even if that means we have to contact the news to do it.

@ Lola REALLY????? How dare you MY Daughter Christina and her friend Jasmine are the ones who started this protest.. I am VERY proud of them both and all the kids that stood up
for what they believe in! This was for EVERY KID who has ever been bullyed and afraid to go to school. I dont care if you feel any differnt you are a bully in my eyes. You should get the facts First I will stand behind my kids everyday. The teachers are also very proud of what our kids did today..

My friend jasmine started the protest and im proud of her! She has made a great change. And if another incident happens then i will be at the next protest! No matter what it takes. Good job jasmine!

The problem with commenting on a news article is that the article is a condenced version of events and does not cover all that this family went through and the efforts they made to resolve this issue. It doesn't tell you about the phone calls to the school over a month ago, or the meeting with the guidance counselor where the boy threatened the young girl yet again in the councelors presence. It doesn't relate the several phone calls to the principal that went unreturned. When the parents finally were able to meet with the principal he lied to them (this was later confirmed by the superintendent). Going to the news was the final result in an effort to get help for their child from a principal that buried his head in the sand. It also fails to relate that this young girl is only one of his victims, just the only one brave enough to step forward and be identified.

Okay i was there . I think everyone that protested is awesomme ((:

Snyone who thinks different needs to relize the cause .

As for the brouhaha over the student protest, I don't get it. Peaceful demonstration is a good thing. It's part of what it means to be an American. But, realize that there may be a price to pay. Look at civil rights activists. They were willing to go to jail for their actions of civil unrest. Believe it or not, all education is not received in the classroom. I support those students who respectfully participated, but as we've seen (most recently with the "Occupiers"), many will take advantage of their liberties and detract from the objective through poor behavior. Cudos, to those kids who spoke out and are willing to accept the discipline for their actions. What a valuable learning experience.

Your right and our kids did Know that they might get in trouble for standing up and speaking out but they also knew that the bullys get away with doing what they do and this school does nothing. If my daughter would have got in trouble then I still would have been behind her. All they want is a safe place to learn They are sick of going to school scared. If they can help one kid at a time realize they have friends and classmates that are willing to stand up for them then they are doing a good thing! Again I am VERY PROUD of them all for standing up and telling the leaders of this school how they feel.They have tryed going and talking to them and all they are told is ok we will look into it and get back to class I know this for a FACT and nothing happens. Parents have tryed talking to the school and we never get anywhere so what can we do but support are kids when they want to do a GOOD thing to be herd.

Whos a sissy ??
I hAte how they kids today got punished .

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Noone should have to put up with bullying adult or children,and I give credit to anyone who helps a person being bullied.Usually a person doing the bullying do it because they need help,get the help and leave the innocent people alone that had nothing to do with your problem.

This issue is about bullying, yet here we have adults bullying each other instead of setting a good example for these young minds. What these kids did, it harmed no one. They decided that peace was stronger than violence and we should applaud them. A lot of children in this world are taught not to care about others, but not these kids. Let's not forget we had three innocent victims this year in Chardon becuase one child was not properly guided in life to choose the right actions. Stop the hate!

@Jasmine/Courney I appologize for assuming you were in school while you were making these posts, it was an honest mistake. You should be proud of her for standing up for what she believes in, however this was not about ALL kids that have ever been bullyed, this was about the Emily DeYoung bullying incedent and just went way too far. And her words both on CF Patch and on the Event Facebook page were threatening and demanding. The fact that she is an A student or CF idol has nothing to do with anything. I was not bashing her or calling her out, I was bashing her comments.

@Jeanne there was NOTHING said about your daughter at all, so you should not be so difensive....and calling my a bully?? It is ignorance like that statement that has turned this into such a spectical. Do you even know what a bully is?

@The DeYoungs it does not take hours to try and get the kids back to class, if that was your intention, good for you, but if they do not go back to class, then go home.

@ Lola You did call my daughter out she helped with this protest! and Yes I know what a bully is.. DO YOU???? Also this was not just about emily it was about how the district handles bullys No where on the FB protest page does Jasime nor Christina say this is for Emily! And sorry This little Girl was bullyed by this boy and should not be in our school! I applaud The DeYoungs for what they have done for there daughter as parents its our job to stand behind our kids!!!!!! I am wondering if your Child is a bully and been in trouble for it? Jasmine did not threaten anything or anyone so again get your facts straight. And please leave this page if you have nothing but hateful things to say about everyone!!

My son was the “target” of bullying at Bolich Jr high in 1999 or 2000. I talked to Mayor Don Robart about it at the time and all he did was send a police car to the school. The school had a meeting with me and basically, they told me he had to leave the school because he was being “targeted” by everyone. He ended up staying at a medical facility for young kids with psychological problems, for 3 months. One of his teachers quit because of how they handled this. There was a counselor there who also made fun of my son. He still has scars from it and he’s 24!:( No one in the school or city would listen to me or my son. I often times wonder if I should take legal action for the suffering we both endured. These stories make me so sad and I'm glad he's not in school anymore.

The bully prevention assembly they have at schools is a joke. The kids think its funny. So putting up a post like earlier post isn't helping. What part of this protest don't u get? This isn't the parents protesting it is our children! Wow does that not raise red flags? Our children don't feel safe n don't feel like we are listening to them. This unfortunately is only going to get worse if we as parents don't start getting involved w/our children. We are not supposed to be their friends, we are their parents and its time some of us start acting like it. Listening is a major part of it!

The boy that did this has just as much right to an education as your child! So is the goal for this protest getting this kid expelled? As I stated before, my child wanted to participate in this, and I agreed, until I get all of the information. I DO NOT applaud the DeYoungs for exposing thier daughter with her face and real name on TV and the Internet. They should be protecting her identity.

Jasmine's words "Maybe this time will be different, but if not, They better be ready because we WILL do it again and make sure they listen" how is this not threatening?

As far as my child, they are not a bully, for from it!

I am not going to leave this page because I do not agree with everything that everyone says, the Patch wanted to hear from people on this issue, that is what I am doing here.

My daughter has been bullied since her first day at Bolich. (This is her last yr) The faculty has told her to ignore the bullies. It escalated this yr to the girls following her home throwing things at her pushing her n tripping her. When her younger brother tried to stop it he was kicked. The schools response was to "talk to the parents". No the flyer sent out the first day of school said ZERO TOLERANCE for bullying! Why were the girls not suspended for hurting my daughter? It is actions or lack thereof that causes peaceful protests like yesterdays.

mjameson You are 100% right it was not the parents its our kids!!!! When our kids miss school because they are scared to go to school then we need to do something. The parents of bolich have tryed and our kids know we have so they wanted to do this to show they want change in our school. Again I am very proud of each and everyone of them for standing up to the leaders of this school.All they want is to be able to go to school and feel safe!

Tha's exactly what they said to me when my son was being bullied. I can't believe Bolich STILL isn't doing anything!!!!!!!!!!! I should join the protest!

My daughter had every right to be involved in the protest yesterday. Her first yr at Bolich she was bullied so badly that it caused her to become suicidal n b put into a children's psychiatric unit for a week n put on antidepressants for over a year!

I say if enough of us parents get together we can show our children we are behind them! I know there is a school board meeting on the 6th of April, I say we all go n make it known that we won't tolerate this anymore! If nothing changes then further action may b necessary?

Lola I hate to say this but if a child is that menacing n disruptive to other children's safety n education YES, they should b expelled. Obviously this child has either deep rooted emotional problems. Or is a spoiled brat with no parental discipline! I hate to speak badly of other children because no child is perfect. It is sad that this situation has gone this far, but SOMETHING needs to be done. If the school won't listen to the parents then maybe our children can get their attention?

I don't know the DeYoungs n everything their daughter has been through, but I can say I did go off on the mother yesterday when I half heard a conversation she was having w/her husband. She saw saying that the children needed to go back in to class that their education was important. I didn't hear all of what she said but I told her my child had every right to b out there n how dare she criticize my child for defending herself. So for those of u who thought they were out there protesting.... you are very wrong they really were trying to convince the kids to go back in to the school.

It makes me very sad that as parents we can not come together and find a common ground. What is done can not be undone. We need to work together the that our kids do not feel the need to protest again. Go to Concerned parents of Cuyahoga Falls' Harvey Bolich Middle School parents , on Facebook and work with us. Oh, and Lola you may want to check your facts. No children were handcuffed yesterday.

@Jeanne, NO WHERE have I said that it is OK to bully someone, but even the bullies have a right to an education. SMH on her?? What does that even mean? You are not reading all that I am writing, you are just reading between the lines. There does need to be a stop to bullying, but this was not the correct way to go about it.

I believe it was exactly the right way for our children to go about it. It empowers the. Victims to stand up n say enough is enough. If the parents can't get our point across then maybe our kiss can! I applaud these brave children who took action yesterday n think if there were more kids like them perhaps things will get done. If the children decide to protest again I know I will b right there with them helping them in anyway possible to b heard!

Perhaps some of the akron schools have it right? Annex schools for those who cannot or will not behave. At least then the kids who are disruptive can all bother eachother n leave the kids who want to learn alone!

@ Lola Danko. You are standing up for this kid that threatened to rape, cripple, and burn down Emily's house! You want to say that that is not condoning bullying? What would you call it.

@ lola can you Tell us your real name please..
We do know you r using a fake name so unless you can tell us your name you should not comment on this if you are afraid to say who you are..

My Name is Courtney Moore and I am Jasmine's mother. This is to any one that feels the need to speak to her and I wont name any names (real or fake) because you know who you are. Any one that knows Jazz knows what a polite, well spoken and kind girl she is. Her and Christina started this protest not just for one student(although our hearts and prayers go out to the DeYoung Family) this was for any student that has ever been bullied who's voice was not heard. It was to make the school and the district aware that they(the students) wanted tougher consequences for the bullies. I am very sad to see the few parents that are putting the protest down saying it was the wrong way to do it.. I don't see you standing up letting your voices be heard, you are sitting down behind a computer and a fake name bashing children for taking a stand on a POSITIVE thing called change. I am very pro-active with both of my children and what goes on in their school, I will be a constant force when it comes to my children's safety in and outside of school. I teach both of my children to treat others kindly, I know they are not perfect by any means, but I will tell you I am sure proud of the young adults they are turning out to be.. In closing I hope to see and HEAR alot of you at the next meeting, so we as a community can come together and help out children's voices not be silenced.

I know the bully. having worked with kids from this area I have become quite familiar with this young man. This is what I know; in 4th grade he became violent when he was told not to call a another child after 9pm. He started calling at 1 or 2 in the mourning. He also threaten to kill the child and burn down his home. He would push and hit the child any time he saw him in school. When he would call he would threaten the adults as well. When the parents complained they were told that he is a special needs child there fore all they could do was make the victim move to another class. In fifth grade he shoved a child so hard the child ended up in the ER. The bully was assigned an aide. Some time during that same year he lit a fire in the school parking lot.
I have heard many other things involving this bully but I do not know them to be fact. I do know that many kids are afraid that he will in some way hurt them if they say anything he doesn't like.
I understand that every child has the right to learn, but some kids do not belong in public schools.

@ Alan all I can say is wow! This child needs out of our school why is he still in school after all of this is what I would like to know? This child is going to hurt someone is that what are school wants. I am so upset after reading this I dont even know what to say.. Thank you for this info Alan have you shared this with Bolich i am sure they know but they need to know that people are going to speak up and we will find all of this out!

They have schools for for kids who are like this and sorry if these kids Are hurting others then they need to be removed from Bolich! If they are special needs then it seems to me they are not being taking care of the right way..I will be calling today and I Hope other parents will too to ask why these kids are still in our school.. This is not safe for our children in any way and I will fight for these kids to be removed from our school.. Thank you again and please let me know anything else you might know that would help..

FYI Lola is my real name! And even if it was not, what would it matter. You are just upset because someone is not agreeing with you. As I have said before, I do not condone bullying, nor do I think it is OK what this kid did. However, he is entitled to an education just like your children are.

@Alan, I do not think that it is very proffesional of you to come on a public forum and give personal information out about this child. IEP students have different standards and disicplines (it is the law) than regular students. I would think that when he gets to High School they would put him in Schnee, but until then, there is no place for him to go.

My child really likes the 2 girls that started this protest, I was not putting them down, nor was I putting down them standing up for what they believe in, but I do not think that it should have been done on school time or on school property. This whole thing has turned into a circus. What are you going to say when you call the school, they can not give you any information on what this kid has done in the past, that is a privacy issue. You do not even know if what Alan is saying is fact. If you do not feel like the school is safe for your child, then you have every right to go to school with them and stay with them the entire day to protect them.

It is also my understanding that only the kids that stayed out after 2nd period got suspended? Why didn't they ALL get suspended. That just sends a message to all of the other students that it is OK to do this for whatever you feel is not right. As long as they stop the protest by the end of 2nd period they will not get into trouble. Maybe I should call the school and complain about that, I feel they ALL should have been punished, they were not in class where they were supposed to be.

No one got suspended at all.

and Lola I am not upset at all that you dont agree with me. I believe that eveyone has a right to thier opinion, that is why we live in America. I was upset for you saying things about my daughter, she would never threaten anyone. She was just making a statement.

"Maybe this time will be different, but if not, They better be ready because we WILL do it again and make sure they listen." this statement and the one made on the Facebook event page do come across as threatening. I am not the only one who thinks this, just the only one that is saying it.

well, she is ONLY 12 so maybe her words were not used right. But what she is saying is that she feels strongly about this issue and she is not going to stop fighting for it. And I am right there with her. And i am not the ONLY one that feels that way.. There is only a handful of you that want to down her. And if you have a problem with what she said call the school and see if they feel the same way. Her teachers were all behind her as well. She did a good thing, I guess i just have a hard time with any parent thinking the protest was wrong, it wasnt like she was out there to flick school or for popularity, she was honestly out there speaking up about somthing that she feels VERY strongly about.

@Alan thank you for coming forward. I know you spoke to my husband last night about all of this. But coming on a public forum is a lot different then speaking one on one. So unfortunately people may strongly disagree with what you are saying. Don't pay them any mind. I know that they do not have all of the facts and they are going to move forward on speculation and theie opinions on the matter. Thank you again. @Lola once again... You may want to check your facts. Although I do not know what punishments if any have been put on all the children but I do know for a fact that all the children that went in before I left at 1pm will not be suspended.

@ Courney, I understand why she was out there, and encourage anyone to stand up for what they believe in, I just do not agree that it should have been done durning school, but she said on the Event page next time they may walk out or flick? You can demand something from adults and authorities and then tell that what you may do if they do not do what you want them to do, that can be constuded as threatening. Maybe that is not how she wanted to come across, but that is how I read it. I still feel the school did what they could do "by law" to this IEP student.

@Danielle, comprehend what you are reading, I started with "it is my understanding" and ended with a ? I was not stating a FACT!

@Jeanne, read what I wrote to Danielle above.....it applies to you as well. There is NO reason for you to type a message to anyone in all caps.

I mis-spoke when I said suspended, I meant ISR's ( I can admit when I make a mistake) from what I have been told by several kids the kids that did not go in after 2nd period got ISR's, some got more that one......I AM NOT STATING A FACT!!!! I am stating what I have been told.

Well I am stating a fact no one got a isr nothing happend to any of them. I spoke with the princapal. Also I was on my phone and did not realize my cap was on.. And I hope you are at the next parent meeting and I would love for you to stand up and tell every parent that if they dont feel safe with this kid after all the FACTS we are learning about then you should remove your child or quit your job and stay with your child all day at school. I just dont understand how you could even think that is ok to say? 600 plus kids should be in harms way because of this child? I dont think so he needs removed!!!! I will be working on this all week I am off work and I will keep everyone up to date..

I will answer what I consider to be insults then I will not speak of them again.
I spoke what I knew to be facts. Some of which my family was the victim. I have no reason nor do I have a propensity towards lying.
As far as my professionalism, I am a retired parent who volunteers. I do this to make sure our children have a safe and educational child hood. They can not have this when they live in fear. We need to stop this petty fighting amongst ourselves and work as a team to improve the environment in which our children are exposed to.

@ Lola. I would appreciate if you would stop quoting what I said. Everyone knows, and only you seem to drag it out. It wasn't a threat, even if it sounded like it. So now, to be honest, it's just annoying. That being the least bit disrespectful.

@ Lola Danko. This being the least disrespectful. I just want to know who you think you are? You are most definitely entitled to your own opinion, but I want to know how you all of a sudden know everything about the protest and what it was about? It was NOT completely about Emily. That school did NOTHING to help us with our bullying problems. And I beg you please don't try to argue with me until I see you down at the counselor trying to get one of YOUR problems fixed. The protest was about getting the district to discipline ALL bullies better. Emily was just icing on the cake. If you look at the event page ( That you all of a sudden have access to) I state " This is for kids like Emily." And by you calling me out, you are calling Christina out because she helped me organize the protest. Before you start bashing me and my family, I can, and will tell you to get your facts straight. Thank You Very Much.

I think it was right to protest!! because teachers an everyone in the office need to dso something about bullying!! i was part of the protest!! i lastest forever i was signed out of school and i was gonna skip anyway until my mom found me. and decided to sign me out. i left to go home then i came back!! andprotested more!

if i didnt show up yesterday i would have got suspended.

I completely agree that arguing and name calling between the parents is not solving any problems at all. We can agree to disagree how about that. @ Alan I commend you for coming forth wish more parents would.@" Lola" I believe that your daughter has just recently gotten into to trouble with some online things that I will not mention on here, but ALOT of people know about it, so maybe you should be the last one throwing stones at people that are trying to make a change. Bottom line our kids are going to be going to school with each other for the next 6-7 (or longer), so maybe instead of finger pointing and name calling we should take some ques from our children and come together and make a difference..

oh and I didnt know Jasmine was still signed in the above statement is from Me her mother Courtney...

Michael and Marisa, two young siblings who make very truthful music, just released a single about bullying. It is very touching and uplifting. Here is the YouTube link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WapBRdKcl1Y

I have a 3rd grader and am buying a house-I have stayed away from Bolich area because I have heard nothing but horrible things about that school and she will be in middle school in a few short years. I found a house I LOVE in the area and was considering it, thinking I need to take what I've heard about the school with a grain of salt-but after reading all these comments THERE IS NO WAY I WOULD EVER ALLOW MY DAUGHTER TO GO TO BOLICH!!!! I'm not sure which is worse-the parents or the kids! Thanks to all of you for making my decision very easy and clear cut-best of luck to all of you and your kids!